APPROVAL TELECOURSE

How to Overcome Your Inner Approval Addict – A 4 Week Telecourse for Approval Addicts!

 

Is This You?

Do you…

• Mentally rehearse what you’re going to say before you go into a situation…?
• Mentally go over the things you said and did at a party, a mom’s group, a business meeting, finding all kinds of ways you could have done it or said it differently?
• Dress mostly to make some kind of impact on the people around you?
• Apologize when your house is dirty?
• Change the things you do and say depending on who you’re with?
• Keep your opinions to yourself when they’re not the same as the opinions of other people?
• Buy things just to make an impression (e.g. watches, cars, etc.)?
• Assume you know what people are thinking about you?
• Have trouble saying no to other people?
• Find yourself trying to impress on a regular basis?
• Think your success and/or happiness depends on the opinions or judgments of other people?
• Constantly try to achieve so that other people will be impressed by your accomplishments?
• Find yourself stuck when you’re afraid you might fail at something?

Approval addicts try to manipulate the opinions of other people in their favor. My hunch is that you are here because you are starting to realize how exhausting this is…

Approval addicts look to others to build them up. They also worry about being judged, not fitting in, being left out or alone. They often avoid “putting themselves out there” because of what they fear other people will think or say if they fail. Although they want close connections with others, they often feel resentment towards the people in their lives or find themselves disappointed and unfulfilled in many of their relationships.

Benefits of Overcoming Your Inner Approval Addict

Just imagine what life would be like if you didn’t worry about other people’s approval…Take it from me, a life free from approval seeking feels wonderful. It frees you to focus on the things that truly make you happy so you can do your real work in the world.

Some benefits you can expect:

• Clarity – You will no longer be wasting time, energy and money looking for happiness where you won’t find it.
• Consistency - Your life will reflect your values and your goals.
• Connection – Improved relationships across the board– with family, friends, co-workers and most importantly with yourself!
• Confidence – You won’t need to look outside of yourself to feel good any longer.
• Purpose – You will find a way to do what you love, heal the world and make money!
• Power – Uncover your hidden superpowers and put them to work in your life!

I’ve put together six steps that I used on myself to overcome approval addiction and I’m going to be teaching them to you in this upcoming telecourse.

The Details

Join me for a live 4 week telecourse where…

• You get to learn the EXACT six steps I used to overcome my inner approval addict, Plus…
• You get to ask me questions.
• You get to receive coaching (if you want).
• You get to hear from other approval addicts in a supportive setting.
• You receive homework each week as well as structured feedback on the calls.

We’ll meet via teleconference (after you register you will receive an email with instructions and dial-in details) four Wednesdays starting November 16^th. Calls will be about 90 minutes in length. If you can’t make a class, don’t worry about it. All calls will be recorded. You will receive a link to download the mp3 recording within 24 hours of the class. Homework and worksheets will also be assigned each week.

Class Outline:

Class 1 What Kind of Addict Are You?

Approval addiction comes in lots of shapes and sizes. Are you a performer? A hero worshiper? A helper? A chameleon? A scaredy cat?

Learn what approval addiction looks like in your life. How does it keep you stuck? What will it take to change things for good?

Class 2 Getting “Everybody” on Your Side

Other people are important, just not as important as you think! Learn how you stay stuck by projecting the thoughts and opinions of a handful of people onto the Entire Known Universe and find out how to find your very own tribe.

Class 3 Getting the Approval You Really Need

It’s not what other people think of you that matters. It’s what you think of you that makes all the difference. Learn how to uncover and dismantle the self-approval killing beliefs that are keeping you from approving of yourself.

Class 4 Playing to Your Edge!

Practice makes perfect but, don’t worry, you get to have fun doing it. Learn how to play to your edge – get the tools you’ll need to live a life free from approval seeking for good!

Date and Time

Dates: 11/30, 12/7, 12/14, 12/21

Time: Noon PST, 3 PM EST

Classes will be 90 minutes in length. Can’t make one of the classes? No problem! All calls will be recorded. You will receive a recording of the call within 24 hours of the class.

Want More Support?

I‘m offering a three-month group coaching upgrade package for those of you who wish to deepen your practice using these tools. In this small group-coaching circle, you will have the opportunity to practice these tools and receive individual coaching in a supportive and intimate environment. This group is limited to eight participants. We will meet via phone two times per month for 90 minutes.

The Guarantee

If, after participating in this course, you are not completely satisfied with your experience just email me and I will refund your payment.

 

What People Are Saying…

“When I registered, I thought letting go of approval addiction would take me years but now I am experiencing freedom from the anxiety of approval addiction. One of the most powerful things about the course was listening to other class participants go through the coaching process during our calls. My fellow classmates were always, as they spoke, unknowingly giving voice to issues that were mine as well as theirs. Hearing them articulate beliefs and thoughts during their coaching time on the call really helped me see the truth because I shared the beliefs and thoughts they worked through. Once I had heard Amy coach my classmates, I understood instantly that I needed to let thoughts and beliefs go. And often, these were thoughts and beliefs that had plagued me for years.

Amy is a delightful teacher. Her naked honesty and charming sense of humor make her a pleasure to learn from. Her 90 minute classes fly by and I can’t wait til the next one. She is also able to create an instantly warm community amongst strangers on the phone. By the time class ended, I felt like those women I had never met before had become fellow thought warriors with me. We formed a team during Amy’s classes and worked together towards freedom from approval addiction.”

- W.M

“The coaching process is not new to me – I worked with a coach previously  (it was much more expensive and I got FAR less out of it than I did in this class). Do yourself a favor and take the time to work with Amy! This was by-far one of the most engaging opportunities I’ve had to learn about myself. Her common-sense approach will draw out your ‘addict’ but its her compassion that will allow you to truly find yourself. My life has forever been changed; yours will be too!”

– E.M.

“It’s so easy to get caught up in your own head. For me, listening to group coaching was great because I was reminded that I’m not alone in my thinking. Going through the process myself, I felt supported and emboldened having a group that could understand and relate to what I was sharing. Perhaps I was even giving voice to what someone else felt… ”

- L.D.

“The class was wonderful! I am thinking differently now. I’m sure different parts of the class hit people differently. I just used the ‘could you prove it in a court of law’ technique yesterday and the day before. I am also catching myself when I think of what other people are thinking/saying about me – and remind myself that I’ve decided that I don’t want to waste my time thinking about what other people are thinking about. The ‘tribe’ analogy, was very helpful – I  might call that an ‘aha’ moment. Overall, I’d say that my perspective has definitely shifted for the better! This has been a great class! Loved it! “

- S.G.

“. . . ‘it takes a lot of guts to just be yourself.’  You do not need outside approval. You just need to approve of yourself.” Thank you for these words. Of everything in all the lessons, this may be the most empowering reminder for me.

This week I decided I am willing to suck at singing so I can get better at it.  So . . . I started singing lessons.  For someone with an untrained ear who often sings the wrong note and doesn’t realize it, this will be quite an adventure.  But, I’m willing to suck at it so I can get better.

Thanks, Amy.”

- L.M.

“I didn’t realize that I look to others for approval. I have all the symptoms.I’m trying to find myself because I feel like sometimes I’ve really lost who I am! I’m always trying to please everyone else and tend to ignore what I want or need! So, Just wanted to say thanks for the uplifting course!”

- A. C.

“Amy you have been a blessing to me, it seems that everything that you talk about in class 4 is just so me, I always pay too much attention of what other people say or think…”

- N.S.

“I want to to tell you how much I enjoy your lessons and how they have helped me. I appreciate all the time you take to share your knowledge with those of us who are Approval Addicts.  I have suffered with this a long, long time and now I am better at not feeling guilty or sad, frustrated and many other emotions. I am, step-by-step, getting control over that part of me.”

- C.S.

About Me

Hello. My name is Amy and I am an approval addict (a “recovering” approval addict anyway). Before I became a life coach, I spent years chasing approval. When I was younger, I wanted my mom to approve of me so I participated in beauty pageants– I hated them. I wanted my dad to approve of me so I played sports – basketball, softball, volleyball, tennis, track. The only sport I really enjoyed was tennis! I wanted my friends to like me so I drank a lot at parties so I would seem like more fun. I ended up with a minor in possession!

As an adult, my desire for approval grew. I did every thing in my power to gain the respect and admiration of as many people as possible. I learned how to speak foreign languages, I became a computer programmer, I got a masters degree. I can go on and on. I was so busy chasing approval from the Entire Known Universe that I had zero time or energy to feed my own soul. No matter. I was so disconnected from myself that I didn’t really even have a clue how to feed my soul.

I learned how to overcome my addiction to approval. I now live my life from a place of peace, confidence and freedom. I’ve finally found my true work in the world, I enjoy a happy family life with my husband and three children and I take amazing care of myself. Oh and I have fun every day!

My Coaching Philosophy

I am a Master Certified Martha Beck Life Coach. In my coaching, I follow the North Star process. Martha Beck, in Finding Your Own North Star, uses the North Star as a metaphor for your right life. It’s a fixed point in the sky that can always be used to figure out which way you’re headed. Like the North Star, Martha argues: “the knowledge of your perfect life sits inside you just as the North Star sits in its unalterable spot.”

The North Star Process is based on the premise that each client already has the basic knowledge and operating instructions to create his or her right life.

In my work, I have found that the single most significant way that people lose sight of their own North Star is through approval seeking.