Happy No Matter What


Take Pride in Your Dorky Side!

“The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” – Quote from Almost Famous You’re probably acquainted with your inner critic or your inner child or even your inner lizard… but today I’d like to introduce you to someone else I think you ought to know. [...]


Do You Teach Your Kids How to Lie?

Yesterday I found scribbles all over a notebook I use for work. I noticed my 3 year old daughter sitting at my desk earlier in the day. I showed her the notebook and asked, “did you do that?” Here’s how the conversation went… Alice: Well…. Um. No… Me: You didn’t? Who did it then? Alice: [...]

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In my work with approval addicts I’ve noticed several approval seeking personality types. I created the 7 approval seeking personality types below as a tool to help my clients become more aware of what they do. These aren’t meant to be mutually exclusive categories. You might find you identify with several. Take a look at [...]


I went to drop the twins off at preschool the other day. Anthony had been throwing up the night before but he seemed fine in the morning so I decided to take him. I mentioned this to Lisa, one of the preschool teachers, and she seemed uncomfortable. She told me there was a new policy [...]


1. You think you can read minds. I believe telepathy exists. One time my husband touched my back and the word “courage” popped into my head. I asked him what he was thinking at the time and he said, “be brave.” But that’s about it for me when it comes to psychic experience. Yet back [...]


An Open Letter to An Approval Addict

You don’t know what you want. You won’t know until you face the fact you have a problem. Emotional eaters struggle with extra weight. Alcoholics deal with blackouts and hangovers. Smokers smell bad and cough. Gamblers lose money. But, you… You’re just stuck. You decided to be a lawyer because dad wanted you to be [...]


I have had a life long love of “gold stars.” The gold star was the most sought after in elementary school.  I wanted to win every spelling bee and ace every times table. My love for gold stars morphed into a passion for any kind of recognition. I chased after the elusive presidential fitness award, [...]


Why Approval Seeking Makes You Stupid

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”– Albert Einstein. Approval Seeking. The truth is everyone does it. The desire to belong is primal. Brene Brown says so, and I believe her. It’s an evolutionary thing. In the days when we lived in caves, staying on [...]


The World Needs You

“Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” [...]


That Was Then. This Is Now.

I used to want to lose weight. It didn’t matter how much I weighed. I always wanted to lose a few more pounds. I thought other people were nicer to me when I was thin. Now I’m at my natural weight. I got there by treating myself nice. (And who wants to be around someone [...]