Happy No Matter What

Hi. My name is Amy and I am addicted to approval. I have been in recovery for about three years. But once an addict, always an addict as they say. I didn’t always think of myself as an approval addict. I lived most of my life in denial. I was the golden child. In high [...]


Why Rejection, Very Literally, Hurts

I had the nanny over last Saturday to help out with the kids while I enjoyed a bit of “me” time. First thing the next morning when I went into Anthony’s room, he sees me, rolls over and says, “where’s Maria? I want Maria!” Then I went into Alice’s room to say hi. It was [...]


Do You Teach Your Kids How to Lie?

Yesterday I found scribbles all over a notebook I use for work. I noticed my 3 year old daughter sitting at my desk earlier in the day. I showed her the notebook and asked, “did you do that?” Here’s how the conversation went… Alice: Well…. Um. No… Me: You didn’t? Who did it then? Alice: [...]

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I went to drop the twins off at preschool the other day. Anthony had been throwing up the night before but he seemed fine in the morning so I decided to take him. I mentioned this to Lisa, one of the preschool teachers, and she seemed uncomfortable. She told me there was a new policy [...]


How to Handle Criticism

Last week I took my kids to a preschool event at Oaks Park where for $6 they got to ride the frog hopper and drive the kiddie cars to their hearts content. At the end of the event there was a massive story hour (picture 300 preschool kids, a swarm of guardians, one dairy princess [...]


I have had a life long love of “gold stars.” The gold star was the most sought after in elementary school.  I wanted to win every spelling bee and ace every times table. My love for gold stars morphed into a passion for any kind of recognition. I chased after the elusive presidential fitness award, [...]


How to Love Yourself

I love my son even when he uses my arm to wipe his nose. I love my daughter even after she throws a fit at Cosco in front of the pharmacy line and won’t get off the floor. I love my baby even when she throws up in my hair at 3am. I love my [...]


It’s 6:33 am. I’m sitting at my desk. I’ve been up for over an hour. I’m hoping to get some work done before the baby and my three-year-olds wake up. Then it’s time to get them dressed, fed and off to school. There’s a mountain of books next to me and one on the floor [...]


Getting Too Hungry

For some, eating past +2 on The Hunger Scale is the problem. For me, and I suspect a lot of busy moms, the problem is getting too low on the scale. The problem is I get too busy – washing clothes, feeding kids, picking up kids from school, bathing kids, nursing baby, etc.) to eat. [...]


Moving More

The yoga ball. I lived on this thing for nine months when my twins were infants. Bouncing them was just about the only way i could get them to stop crying. Baby Joy is a much more mellow child but I still find myself bouncing her a lot. I’m bouncing right now, in fact. It’s [...]